I realize these past few days that I tend like most of us, I'd like to think I am not alone, to either feel good or bad simply based on the fact of what I did or didn't do. In other words, I seem to base my identity on my successes or failures. Though, thinking about it, I realize I am setting myself up for disaster. In truth, I am far from perfect and while I'd like to do everything perfectly and avoid making mistakes, I am simply human.
I tend like most of us to be harsh on myself. I am quick to criticize myself. This does not seem to help our self esteem. Hence, why don't we look at it from a different angle. The mistakes we make don't they help us improve ourselves? I might be quick to criticize myself though I generally make a note of what I don't like. Well, if I don't like my behavior or the outcome of my poor behavior, I tend to seek solutions as to avoid feeling poorly again. So perhaps, we need to take a moment to tell ourselves that we are as we are: perfect in our way of being imperfect. Also, we should embrace the opportunities that our so-called mistakes offer us: a chance to improve.
For instance, I tend to overcommit myself, leaving me feeling used and frustrated with myself for not taking better care of my own time. Well, this is something I can turn around. To avoid feeling frustrated, I need to make changes to my behavior. Why I'd love to say yes to everyone, I can't. I need to say NO. I need to realize I am the one in control of my time. I don't need to feel guilty if I don't have the time to help someone.
So, I will work at improving that aspect in my life. I am choosing to learn from my past "mistakes" and grow along the way. Our experiences do shape us. We can learn from them.